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Reply #840 on: January 20, 2011, 05:08:34 AM

The one gripe I have with those dating services is that you cannot specify anything about sexual preferences. For me at least this is another aspect where you should kind of be on the same page.

Err.. are you talking kinks or just normal stuff like Bi, Gay, Straight?  That's what the "man looking for X" question is all about.

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Reply #841 on: January 20, 2011, 05:16:08 AM

Jeff, would you mind expounding a bit more about your gripe?

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Reply #842 on: January 20, 2011, 08:13:39 AM

The option to select "seeking both genders" seems to be a rare thing for the most popular dating sites, but many at least now let you specify "same gender" (did eHarmony ever cave on that?).

While OKCupid is a bit better about it with "available" (poly/open relationship) and GLB descriptors, last I checked they were behind on the TQ part of the spectrum.

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Reply #843 on: January 20, 2011, 10:13:08 AM

eHarmony never did, no.
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Reply #844 on: January 20, 2011, 10:54:54 AM

I used Match.com and met my SO on it.


According to match.com, you are still looking!

 why so serious?

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Reply #845 on: January 20, 2011, 11:42:12 AM

I was talking about kinks, actually. Most of the sites that exclusively deal with bringing people with certain kinks together are really creepy and even if they keep the creepiness level down they are mostly dealing with the sex part.

Initially this got me thinking that it would be nice if I could just add that to my profile on a normal dating site to give those matching algorithms the option to check if people are on the same page there.

Then I realized that you cannot add anything beyond 'i like boys/girls' to a profile. Yet even people who are more vanilla probably have different preferences, likes and dislikes and at least in my opinion sexual compatibility is important in a relationship so I wondered why it isn't dealt with.

How can you claim to match people to each other when you ignore such an integral part of relationships? That's really the only gripe I have with dating sites.

On the other hand how can you deal with something like that without becoming some sort of adult friend finder? I suppose that's why it isn't already done.
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Reply #846 on: January 20, 2011, 11:51:04 AM

Mainstream is where the volumes are in online dating.  I think it is just simple economics. 

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Reply #847 on: January 20, 2011, 11:52:57 AM

You deal with it the same way OKCupid does.  A series of tests that are optional and give you little stickers indicating such when you're matched with someone.  "So and so is a little less kinky than you are" or "So and so would think you're the definition of vanilla in bed."   Oh ho ho ho. Reallllly?

Of course, I see a business opportunity here.

Mainstream is where the volumes are in online dating.  I think it is just simple economics. 

 Depends on the mainstream you're going for.  Them youngin's are exposed to all the shit the Boomers, us and older genY have slapped up on the internet.  To say they're kinkier than we are is probably a massive understatement.  Coincidentally they're also the largest segment of single folks.

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Reply #848 on: January 20, 2011, 01:52:32 PM

I was talking about kinks, actually. Most of the sites that exclusively deal with bringing people with certain kinks together are really creepy and even if they keep the creepiness level down they are mostly dealing with the sex part.

Yeah, they can be pretty creepy.

Aside from Merusk's suggestion, if kink is a must-have in a relationship, looking into local groups can be a better way to approach the issue - especially if you live in or near a large metropolitan area.

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Reply #849 on: February 02, 2011, 02:01:23 PM

Match.com buys Okcupid for 50 million.

Well, that sucks.  Okcupid was by far the best of the free ones.  The Oktrends article on how pay-dating sites are a scam is already gone.
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Reply #850 on: February 02, 2011, 02:04:22 PM

Well then. That's over.

The people who founded OKCupid should be ashamed.
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Reply #851 on: February 02, 2011, 02:21:20 PM

They can wash the same away in their money baths.   For all their bluster about how much better they were than pay sites, in the end it's always about getting paid.

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Reply #852 on: February 02, 2011, 02:22:25 PM

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"We are excited to join forces with Match because it is clear that no company is more committed to helping people find relationships," said Sam Yagan, co-founder and CEO of OkCupid.  "This marriage offers us the best of both worlds: the autonomy to continue pursuing OkCupid's original vision and the ability to leverage Match's reach and expertise to grow even faster."

$50 million buys you autonomy?   Head scratch

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Reply #853 on: February 02, 2011, 06:09:27 PM

Well then. That's over.

The people who founded OKCupid should be ashamed.

No its just means a niche opened in the online dating market and some one else can make money buckets.
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Reply #854 on: February 02, 2011, 08:45:38 PM

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Reply #855 on: February 02, 2011, 09:00:11 PM

In that editorial the author tries to take revenue amounts and use them to deduce subscriber numbers. He MUST be an MMORPG player!
 Oh ho ho ho. Reallllly?

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Reply #856 on: February 03, 2011, 08:04:45 AM


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Reply #857 on: February 03, 2011, 09:39:27 AM

Plentyoffish

Not quite as pretty or robust as OKCupid, but it just worked for me.  In fact, given this is probably plain luck, I had more success on it.

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Reply #858 on: February 04, 2011, 01:52:14 PM

Well then. That's over.

The people who founded OKCupid should be ashamed.

Good luck in business with that attitude.  Ashamed?  Good for them.

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Reply #859 on: February 04, 2011, 02:02:57 PM

They got their payoff, now they can go play, or start another business, or whatever.  They 'proved' the business model to the point someone had to pay them off, they don't have some kind of Holy Mission to keep going until Match.com finds some other way to crush them.

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Reply #860 on: February 04, 2011, 02:41:52 PM

They got their payoff, now they can go play, or start another business, or whatever.  They 'proved' the business model to the point someone had to pay them off, they don't have some kind of Holy Mission to keep going until Match.com finds some other way to crush them.

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Depends on how big you like to think I guess. My motive would have been to crush Match with a superior product and have easy cashflow for the rest of my life.

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Reply #861 on: February 04, 2011, 02:46:52 PM

Netflix and RedBox between them crushed Blockbuster.  But in the 90's, both of them went *to* Blockbuster, desperate to get their resources and access.  If Blockbuster had been willing to pony up the cash to compete with them in the new business model (destroying their own old one), all your pay-per-view and subscription content TV would be Blockbuster by now.

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Reply #862 on: February 05, 2011, 06:40:47 AM

Sure there is. I don't blame anyone for selling out. Most people that do are petty and insecure people who have never had any shot at real success, yet.

It depends on what motivates you as a business person. If it's just the money to get to a point where you can stop, then that's a great time to leave.

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Reply #863 on: February 05, 2011, 09:22:32 AM

I don't blame anyone for selling out. Most people that do are petty and insecure people who have never had any shot at real success, yet.

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Was that supposed to be in green?

Energy Brands dba Glaceau, the maker of Vitamin Water, was started just 14 years ago by a guy in NY going through divorce and bankruptcy.
It sold to Coca Cola in 2007 for $4.2 BILLION in cash.

I dont know about you, but thats just smart business and given he went from bankruptcy to company with annual revenues of $350 million a year in just over a decade seems he was pretty successful to me.
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Reply #864 on: February 05, 2011, 09:32:11 AM

swamp poop ACK!
Green? No, I think you misinterpreted the "most people" Paelos referred to.

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Reply #865 on: February 05, 2011, 11:21:31 AM

I could see the how it was missed. Not the best language effort on my part.

Most people that blame others for selling out are...

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Reply #866 on: February 08, 2011, 03:29:33 PM

Very fun new article on OKCupid using statistics to figure out what people are likely to think.

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-best-questions-for-first-dates/

Also contains the awesome line "The basic currency of the Internet is human ignorance, and, frankly, our database holds a strong cash position!"
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Reply #867 on: February 08, 2011, 08:47:45 PM

I'm not shocked statistics have revealed religious conservatives are subliterate, ignorant retards.
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Reply #868 on: February 09, 2011, 07:31:44 AM

Sooooo.  Do you guys like beer? DRILLING AND WOMANLINESS

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Reply #869 on: February 09, 2011, 08:21:28 AM

These articles are always fascinating; I'm surprised that these guys haven't written a book yet about everything.

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Reply #870 on: February 09, 2011, 10:36:21 AM

I'm not shocked statistics have revealed religious conservatives are subliterate, ignorant retards.

They perfer life sample, k?

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Reply #871 on: February 09, 2011, 11:45:02 PM

I'm not shocked statistics have revealed religious conservatives are subliterate, ignorant retards.
They perfer life sample, k?
Ow.
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Reply #872 on: February 10, 2011, 11:53:16 AM

These articles are always fascinating; I'm surprised that these guys haven't written a book yet about everything.

They might have but they just got $50MM.

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Reply #873 on: April 08, 2011, 07:56:09 AM

I'm just going to put this here. I really have no words.

http://www.whatsyourprice.com/
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Reply #874 on: April 08, 2011, 08:17:30 AM

Hmm. How is this not flat out prostitution?

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