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Reply #490 on: January 14, 2010, 11:57:14 AM

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Reply #491 on: January 14, 2010, 01:37:25 PM

Have you made that an official emote yet?

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Reply #492 on: January 14, 2010, 01:46:56 PM

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Reply #493 on: January 14, 2010, 01:48:25 PM

I nominate  Gamecube  iPOD Nintendo Controller Eek! be removed to make way for this clearly superior and more frequently used emote.

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Reply #494 on: January 14, 2010, 02:08:08 PM

That one is kind of big. I added an alternate version that's smaller:

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Reply #495 on: January 14, 2010, 02:31:46 PM

I've fixed the big brickface then.
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Reply #496 on: January 14, 2010, 02:42:28 PM

Any chance of  or ?  They'd be a lot more use than some of the emoticons up there that I've never actually seen outside a specifically emote-based post.

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Reply #497 on: January 14, 2010, 02:45:02 PM

I nominate all riceball emoticons


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Reply #498 on: January 14, 2010, 09:23:38 PM

I still think this one needs to be available here.

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Reply #499 on: January 22, 2010, 11:57:26 AM

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/

People might be shallow, but it looks like you might be ok with an animal or if you are interesting.

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Reply #500 on: January 22, 2010, 12:08:22 PM

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/

People might be shallow, but it looks like you might be ok with an animal or if you are interesting.

That was a fascinating read.  Yay statistics!

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Reply #501 on: January 26, 2010, 10:22:30 PM

OK thread, I need an etiquette lesson.

I posted once above, about a recent relationship break-up. I wrote "bring on the internet dating". I'd never tried online dating before, but there was nothing to lose.

It, erm, worked OK. In 12 days, I got 74 messages. Of those, I ended up exchanging emails with eight women (edit - and so far, four gave me their phone numbers). From those, I've got three actual dates in the next week.

All of a sudden, I've gone from loneliness to juggling conversations with many women, stalling five. I'm at the same pre-date stage several times over. That wouldn't have happened naturally -- it happened because I'm new on an internet system. It feels a bit sneaky.

At what point am I being an asshole? Am I now shallow? Is being a three-timing (eight-timing) virtual Tiger Woods cool with internet dating etiquette until I'm actually in a relationship again? Spare me your fantasies about what I should be trying to do with eight interested women. On second thoughts, I'll go fantasize about that some more.
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Reply #502 on: January 26, 2010, 10:33:09 PM

At what point am I being an asshole? Am I now shallow? Is being a three-timing (eight-timing) virtual Tiger Woods cool with internet dating etiquette until I'm actually in a relationship again? Spare me your fantasies about what I should be trying to do with eight interested women. On second thoughts, I'll go fantasize about that some more.

Not yet.  Maybe?  Yes.

If it helps, think of these dates as being like job interviews.  Or maybe even practice job interviews.  Either way, you're not signing any contracts yet.

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Reply #503 on: January 26, 2010, 10:36:20 PM

You're never being an asshole in online dating. Period.
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Reply #504 on: January 26, 2010, 10:56:20 PM

At what point am I being an asshole? Am I now shallow? Is being a three-timing (eight-timing) virtual Tiger Woods cool with internet dating etiquette until I'm actually in a relationship again? Spare me your fantasies about what I should be trying to do with eight interested women. On second thoughts, I'll go fantasize about that some more.

Not yet.  Maybe?  Yes.

If it helps, think of these dates as being like job interviews.  Or maybe even practice job interviews.  Either way, you're not signing any contracts yet.
Yes, but...Are they refusing to date people who play WoW?

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Reply #505 on: January 26, 2010, 11:06:58 PM

I hope so.
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Reply #506 on: January 26, 2010, 11:26:03 PM

At what point am I being an asshole? Am I now shallow? Is being a three-timing (eight-timing) virtual Tiger Woods cool with internet dating etiquette until I'm actually in a relationship again?

As stated, you're going through the interview process right now. When/if you start a relationship* with one of them, then you call the others off. BTW, You're shallow regardless of this internet dating thing.  why so serious?

*use your own honest definition of a relationship. A one-night stand isn't a relationship, but regular dinner and make-out sessions might well be.


Also, from my limited knowledge, you're hitting the ball out fo the park with that kind of message ratio. My understanding of these sites is that guys send 1.4 million messages out, getting a reply rate of approximately 0.0000001%. Are you on eharmony.com? I'm seeing their TV ads doing heavy rotation all over the place for the last month, and they seem much more "female friendly" with all the "relationship" and "compatability" talk on their ads.


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Reply #507 on: January 26, 2010, 11:38:45 PM

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Also, from my limited knowledge, you're hitting the ball out fo the park with that kind of message ratio. My understanding of these sites is that guys send 1.4 million messages out, getting a reply rate of approximately 0.0000001%. Are you on eharmony.com? I'm seeing their TV ads doing heavy rotation all over the place for the last month, and they seem much more "female friendly" with all the "relationship" and "compatability" talk on their ads.

EHarmony is what it sounds like to me.
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Reply #508 on: January 27, 2010, 03:43:33 AM

EHarmony is what it sounds like to me.

That's not it. But I think being a professional writer helps with online presentation. Most of the time it's been women initiating the contact.

Now I sound like an asshole.
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Reply #509 on: January 27, 2010, 05:37:41 AM

It feels a bit sneaky.

At what point am I being an asshole? Am I now shallow? Is being a three-timing (eight-timing) virtual Tiger Woods cool with internet dating etiquette until I'm actually in a relationship again? Spare me your fantasies about what I should be trying to do with eight interested women. On second thoughts, I'll go fantasize about that some more.

Have you lied to anyone?  And if so, why?

They are all there to date.  You are there to date.  Great you got a few interested responses.  Go see what they are like, if one wants to know why you can see her sooner.  Tell her you have dates with three other people you met on the site and maybe you can go get coffee next week.

It's only sneaky assholeness if you make it that way.

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Reply #510 on: January 27, 2010, 06:14:26 AM

I don't think you're being an asshole.  I think it's awesome.  I hope it turns into something nice.  Or you could just build up your black book and date a lot.  I never saw anything wrong with people doing that.  I know plenty of people who go from relationship to relationship and it never works  and it makes them depressed most of the time.  I wonder if they should really be going from date to date.  They're always happy when it first starts out.

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Reply #511 on: January 27, 2010, 06:43:42 AM

Also, from my limited knowledge, you're hitting the ball out fo the park with that kind of message ratio. My understanding of these sites is that guys send 1.4 million messages out, getting a reply rate of approximately 0.0000001%. Are you on eharmony.com? I'm seeing their TV ads doing heavy rotation all over the place for the last month, and they seem much more "female friendly" with all the "relationship" and "compatability" talk on their ads.

Interestingly enough, I've read more negative reviews about eHarmony than any other dating site, and most of it is that the quiz they give is complete shit and doesn't cover a lot of things that are mentioned even in this thread as being important in a relationship (like if you want to do a long distance relationship and if you want kids or not).  Between that and watching a geek friend (about 24 years old) of mine go on there, find some random girl from boonfuck Iowa and watch her isolate him from all of his best friends and end up marrying her after 6 months (mind you this was his first relationship period) I would never go to eHarmony.
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Reply #512 on: January 27, 2010, 06:46:02 AM

Between that and watching a geek friend (about 24 years old) of mine go on there, find some random girl from boonfuck Iowa and watch her isolate him from all of his best friends and end up marrying her after 6 months (mind you this was his first relationship period) I would never go to eHarmony.

You say that like the guy had no control over his own actions.  Sounds to me like the guy chose to isolate himself. 

Tale:  I don't see how you're doing anything wrong.  These women are all probably talking to 50 other guys as well.  Just enjoy the conversations and take your time.  If it works, great.  If not, you've met a few new and interesting people. 

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Reply #513 on: January 27, 2010, 06:58:26 AM

Most of the time it's been women initiating the contact.

Really?  Are you a chubby chaser?  I'm not being snarky, but in the few years that I've done the whole internet dating thing, I've only gotten a handfull of messages from women, and they're generally fatties.  I think I've gotten one, MAYBE 2 emails from cute girls in ~3 years.

Fake edit: I'm 24, in school, tall, thin, well written, and not ugly.  IIRC you're in your 30s, and maybe the game changes?
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Reply #514 on: January 27, 2010, 07:40:00 AM

Hot young chicks in their early 20s don't need online dating sites.
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Reply #515 on: January 27, 2010, 08:16:59 AM

IIRC you're in your 30s, and maybe the game changes?

More like if they girls you are chasing are over 30 the game changes.

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Reply #516 on: January 27, 2010, 11:49:53 AM

(oops edited this post instead of quoting it - lost it)
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Reply #517 on: January 27, 2010, 11:53:19 AM

Oh we need updates and photos please.
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Reply #518 on: January 27, 2010, 12:02:16 PM

Set up a Twitter so we can follow how the dates are going awesome, for real

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Reply #519 on: January 27, 2010, 12:14:01 PM

You guys are going to ruin his chances with all of them!

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Reply #520 on: January 27, 2010, 12:15:12 PM

Set up a Twitter so we can follow how the dates are going awesome, for real

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Reply #521 on: January 27, 2010, 12:23:40 PM

You should get a phone with live audio and video stream, so we can be like your goblins in the mirror.


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Reply #522 on: January 27, 2010, 12:25:34 PM

It will inevitably happen that a woman with whom you thought you clicked on a date will suddenly ignore all your emails and messages for no apparent reason.  This is normal. Just ignore her and move on.  There are motives other than finding an actual boyfriend/girlfriend behind using dating sites.

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Reply #523 on: January 27, 2010, 12:39:41 PM

Like what?

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Reply #524 on: January 27, 2010, 12:42:59 PM

- sex
- free meal/drinks/entertainment
- making someone else jealous
- random socializing

None of these require more than one meeting.

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