I'm getting married!

[Bunk]

One of my best friends:

Takes his fiance to Long Beach on the Pacific side of Vancouver Island (very famous spot) gets a nice ocean view room at the famous Inn there. Has it all planned out, going to do it on the beach under moonlight, the surf crashing, etc. She has a headache and doesn't want to go outside.

So he proposed to her in the motel room.

[RhyssaFireheart]

My husband and I went out to dinner on the anniversary of our first date to the same restaurant and he ended up propsing to me by card (he'd written a nice verse in it) over the dirty dishes still on our table.  I still occasionally poke him about it, but you know - he asked.  And I accepted.  In the long run, that's what does matter, since unless the man does it in front of other people, the couple involved are the only ones who are going to know how things really went down.

[Sky]

My proposal was supposed to be on a peak in VT overlooking our favorite Inn. Sometimes you take what you can get, we vacationed in Finger Lakes that year. First we didn't have money for the VT trip, I pushed hard for it ( ) and then our Inn closed down for updating the week we take for vacation. So we hit the Finger Lakes on a whim. We went on a couple hikes before I found a spot I liked, and even then we had hiked all the way up the gorge and halfway back down. I had spotted a couple nice spots on the far side while hiking up. In the end, it's not how I envisioned it, but it was nice nonetheless and the good memory was formed.

Worst part is, the Inn we stayed at in the Finger Lakes was a pretty awful experience and we don't want to go back.

[Surlyboi]

Mine was in the same sake bar we'd had our first date. The bartender bought the whole place a round to celebrate.

Sadly, that place no longer exists.

About to hit my second round of wedding cake tasting for the day. I may be a diabetic by the end of the week.

[KallDrexx]

I've been seriously thinking about proposing to my girlfriend in March.  Trying to come up with a good idea of how to do it is starting to stress me out a bit though as I don't want it to be something cheesy.  

Well that and the fact that I have the one friend I've told (and her parents that she told and a friend of hers that she told that knows me) yelling at me that a year is too short of a time (even though we practically live together at this point since i always sleep at her house and have been together literally every day for the last 8 months).  

Oh yeah and a large segment of my side of the family has accused me of "finishing what Hitler started" because I'm Jewish (even though I don't practice nor believe any of it) and she's not.  

[Ironwood]

Wait, what now ?


How many people have you put in the oven ?

[Sjofn]

There's no magical set time that's good to propose, your friend probably means well but that's the kind of thing you have to decide yourself. The thing with your family is pretty though, man.

[Oban]

A Godwin on page four of a marriage thread.

Well, that does make sense I suppose.

[NiX]

Oh yeah and a large segment of my side of the family has accused me of "finishing what Hitler started" because I'm Jewish (even though I don't practice nor believe any of it) and she's not.  

My girlfriends Dad has 0 idea I exist and my girlfriend's Mom insists that me meeting him is not in my best interest. Yay traditional values of Portugese people!

This thread only reinforces me resistance to this "joining" process.

[Ironwood]

Again, I'm going to go with ;  Wait, what ?

You people are all strange.

[Selby]

It was kind of difficult for me to propose when my wife picked out her ring at the Tucson gem show then called me to ask if it was OK to get it.  She even insisted that I ask her dad's permission afterwards.    I was somewhat busy with grad school and incredibly broke, so it wasn't something I was really thinking about at the time.

My ex-wife did this.  It was relatively odd and strange now that I look back on it.

[Lantyssa]

One of these days I'm going to tell Ing's mother I didn't change my name entirely because his last name with my first name makes me sound like a farmer's wife, and I hate farmers. If that doesn't work, I'll try "I was too lazy to file the paperwork."

Tell her that losing the alliteration would make the both of you sad.

[Oban]

Again, I'm going to go with ;  Wait, what ?

You people are all strange.

I am going to go out on a limb and guess that you married someone from the same ethnic and religious background, yes?

[Merusk]

Can you think of anyone who'd marry a Scott other than another Scott?

[Oban]

I don't know Scott, but in most places around the world Scott could not marry Scott.

[Sjofn]

One of these days I'm going to tell Ing's mother I didn't change my name entirely because his last name with my first name makes me sound like a farmer's wife, and I hate farmers. If that doesn't work, I'll try "I was too lazy to file the paperwork."

Tell her that losing the alliteration would make the both of you sad.

Seriously, all my names start with the same letter, I can't go screwing that up just because I married someone!


EDIT: I will say that I did promise that if I ever competed in some Scottish Highland Games, I would totally register using Ingmar's last name so people wouldn't wonder why the Polack was there (even though I had a Scottish granddad, no one ever KNOWS that because, well, my last name is Polish).

[Paelos]

Oh yeah and a large segment of my side of the family has accused me of "finishing what Hitler started" because I'm Jewish (even though I don't practice nor believe any of it) and she's not.  

Sounds like they are flipping out over the kids not being Jewish. I'm assuming you're relatively young and have younger friends, so I want to say kudos on the choice of March. The means you won't be scheduling the wedding in the fall during football season. I can't begin to describe how much of a PITA it is to explain to people that people will not show up if you have your wedding during a home game.  

[Furiously]

It was kind of difficult for me to propose when my wife picked out her ring at the Tucson gem show then called me to ask if it was OK to get it.  She even insisted that I ask her dad's permission afterwards.    I was somewhat busy with grad school and incredibly broke, so it wasn't something I was really thinking about at the time.

But yah, if you can, give her the moment.  Don't think that I haven't heard from her several times just how unromantic it all was.   

Or just say, you are a progressive man and wanted her to propose to you!

[Trippy]

Oh yeah and a large segment of my side of the family has accused me of "finishing what Hitler started" because I'm Jewish (even though I don't practice nor believe any of it) and she's not.  

You could have a sex change and then it wouldn't be an issue

[Tebonas]

I always found this "Only the mother counts to determine if the kid is Jewish or not" thing refreshingly feminist. 

[Ironwood]

Again, I'm going to go with ;  Wait, what ?

You people are all strange.

I am going to go out on a limb and guess that you married someone from the same ethnic and religious background, yes?

Fail to see the relevance of my own choices versus Insane Parents.  Perhaps it's because I have the most sane parents on the planet.  Elena is free to marry whomever the hell she chooses as long as she's happy.

(Should the unfortunate situation arise where she isn't happy, it will be an awful shame when her partner goes missing.  I'm sure we'll all do all we can to find them thereafter, searching everywhere.  Except there.  There's nothing there.)

[Paelos]

I always found this "Only the mother counts to determine if the kid is Jewish or not" thing refreshingly feminist. 

It's one of those Jewish laws that was simply logical for the timeframe. Given the absence of parental testing, they could only prove who gave birth to you. Therefore, the mother became the standard.

[Surlyboi]

Again, I'm going to go with ;  Wait, what ?

You people are all strange.

I am going to go out on a limb and guess that you married someone from the same ethnic and religious background, yes?

Fail to see the relevance of my own choices versus Insane Parents.  Perhaps it's because I have the most sane parents on the planet.

Elena is free to marry whomever the hell she chooses as long as she's happy.
(Should the unfortunate situation arise where she isn't happy, it will be an awful shame when her partner goes missing.  I'm sure we'll all do all we can to find them thereafter, searching everywhere.  Except there.  There's nothing there.)

Just make sure there's no there there.

Last day of vendor visits this month. Pretty much got the cake and flowers nailed down. Now just to zero a caterer.

[Yegolev]

Get a videographer.  If you care to remember any of it, that is.

[Merusk]

Elena is free to marry whomever the hell she chooses as long as she's happy.
(Should the unfortunate situation arise where she isn't happy, it will be an awful shame when her partner goes missing.  I'm sure we'll all do all we can to find them thereafter, searching everywhere.  Except there.  There's nothing there.)

Just make sure there's no there there.

No, you make sure there's a place there.  It just was happenstance that you'd contracted a building to be built in advance, then the day before the slab was to be poured; missing person.

[Sky]

It's one of those Jewish laws that was simply logical for the timeframe. Given the absence of parental testing, they could only prove who gave birth to you. Therefore, the mother became the standard.

NORDBERG!

[Samwise]

I've been seriously thinking about proposing to my girlfriend in March.  Trying to come up with a good idea of how to do it is starting to stress me out a bit though as I don't want it to be something cheesy.

I have never heard a woman complain about a proposal being too cheesy/romantic/whatever.  If it seems a little cheesy to you, it's probably just right.

Also, a year is a perfectly respectable timeframe.  I went on the theory of waiting a long time (6 years in my case) before proposing so that we'd both be really sure about the commitment we were making, and it didn't help a damn thing.  So if it feels right, I say do it, and if it turns out to be a terrible mistake, take comfort in the knowledge that waiting longer wouldn't necessarily have made things any better.

[Surlyboi]

Get a videographer.  If you care to remember any of it, that is.

Nah. There're plenty of videos of me hammered in a tux already.

[Yegolev]

Get a videographer.  If you care to remember any of it, that is.

Nah. There're plenty of videos of me hammered in a tux already.

Others might want it, but I hear you.  Haven't watched my tape and it's been twelve years.

[Sky]

I want to hire the local newspaper photographer who does the sports beat. He's got an amazing eye and cat-like reflexes, he's a font of amazing pictures of people head-down vertical seemingly balanced on a soccer ball or flipping over the top of someone with a horrified expression, or some other perfect shot of a funny frozen moment. Who better to have at the wedding?

[Ghambit]

Just get married inside Second Life.  Not even a sub. fee, totally free.
And instead of a honeymoon you could just buy an entire virtual island.  

Tbh, I do believe we're headed down this path.  Marriage is becoming more and more streamlined as the generations go by, till eventually people just wont do it at all.  
What's the divorce rate up to now btw??  70%?

Grats Mal!

[Merusk]

I want to hire the local newspaper photographer who does the sports beat. He's got an amazing eye and cat-like reflexes, he's a font of amazing pictures of people head-down vertical seemingly balanced on a soccer ball or flipping over the top of someone with a horrified expression, or some other perfect shot of a funny frozen moment. Who better to have at the wedding?

A guy who doesn't have to lug a 18" long 10# lens and monopod into every room but can instead stay out of the way?  

[Ghambit]

I want to hire the local newspaper photographer who does the sports beat. He's got an amazing eye and cat-like reflexes, he's a font of amazing pictures of people head-down vertical seemingly balanced on a soccer ball or flipping over the top of someone with a horrified expression, or some other perfect shot of a funny frozen moment. Who better to have at the wedding?

A guy who doesn't have to lug a 18" long 10# lens and monopod into every room but can instead stay out of the way?  

But then the wedding wouldnt look as bling-paparazzi-ish.  Half the reason for the photog. is to give the occassion a redcarpet feel (which women love), which wont happen if the photog. is changeling that blends into everything sight unseen.  Cant feel like a Queen if there isnt a blatant audience.

[Mrbloodworth]

Congrats!

I think I've settled on never getting married.

* Mrbloodworth is now confused.

[Ghambit]

I bet half you unmarried peeps are stuck in "Common Law" states anyways.   Shhhh, dont tell your gf's.