I'm getting married!

[Malakili]

So...last night I got engaged, posting this here because...why not!

[Mosesandstick]

Congratulations. Where's the honeymoon? 

[K9]

Congratulations!

[SnakeCharmer]

Congratulations!

[Malakili]

Where's the honeymoon? 

Hah, dunno yet.  We are thinking something understated and quiet, but we really have no plans yet.

[Surlyboi]

Congrats.

Wait 'til you start the planning. 

[Numtini]

Congratulations!

[Merusk]

Congrats. Now save the 10k wedding and invest it instead of blowing it because you'll need it later.  It won't happen but I've said it and now you have only yourselves to blame. 

[Slayerik]

Let me be the first to say... DON'T DO IT!

[ghost]

Congrats. Now save the 10k wedding and invest it instead of blowing it because you'll need it later.  It won't happen but I've said it and now you have only yourselves to blame. 

As another married person, I concur.  I wish we would have done it that way.

[Oban]

Congratulations.

[Nebu]

Congratulations!

As another married person, I concur.  I wish we would have done it that way.

My advice here is to do whatever the hell she wants for your wedding/honeymoon.  If you don't, you'll be hearing about it for-EVER.

[Merusk]

If she does that, then you made a mistake in the first place.

[Surlyboi]

Not necessarily.

In my case, we're doing it because it'll probably be the only time our parents ever meet and that's important to her.

[Malakili]

My advice here is to do whatever the hell she wants for your wedding/honeymoon.

This is more or less the plan, not because I want to avoid a lifetime of complaint, but because she cares about it more than I do to begin with.  To explain the situation, we've been together for 5 years, and living together for 4, we aren't married yet mainly because we (and especially me I'll admit) simply didn't(and don't) feel any real attachment to the legal instittion.  In terms of the commitment side of it, that was in reality made long ago, the actual legal marriage side of it is all but a formality we are deciding to do for legal/practical reasons (hospital visitation etc), and in fact will likely get the official stuff out of the way long before we have our actually reception.  

That being said, we are still excited about it, and we do want to have some kind of reception/party as a friends/family celebration thing.  We aren't huge on tradition, so we aren't really sure exactly what we want to do yet, but there is really only so much you switch up the standard stuff (people come, theres dancing and music, theres food, and so forth).

[K9]

Where's the honeymoon? 

Hah, dunno yet.  We are thinking something understated and quiet, but we really have no plans yet.

I'd recommend Scotland

[Sky]

They'll have at ye.

[Khaldun]

Congrats!

Small is definitely beautiful when it comes to weddings. My sibling did a thing where the formal marriage was just a few friends along to witness, in a beautiful place, and then some receptions/vows repeated in several different places where family and friends live over the next year and a half, hosted generally by family members in those places. Spread the cost out, kept it fun and social, reduced the stress and difficulty of the ceremony.

[RhyssaFireheart]

Congratulations!

As another married person, I concur.  I wish we would have done it that way.

My advice here is to do whatever the hell she wants for your wedding/honeymoon.  If you don't, you'll be hearing about it for-EVER.

Congrats!

Small is definitely beautiful when it comes to weddings. My sibling did a thing where the formal marriage was just a few friends along to witness, in a beautiful place, and then some receptions/vows repeated in several different places where family and friends live over the next year and a half, hosted generally by family members in those places. Spread the cost out, kept it fun and social, reduced the stress and difficulty of the ceremony.

Eh, I agree with Khaldun.  My friend did it this way and she still had a nice, lovely wedding with a wonderful reception, all dne on the "cheap".  Personally, while I can remember the big ceremony and all that stuff we did for my wedding, looking back, I definitely agree that less can be much better.  Getting married shouldn't be some sort of contest, IMO. 

[Grimwell]

Son, I'm going to give you some advice. Sit down on that barrel over there.

* Grimwell pulls a pack of tabac from his pocket and works a chaw into a good spit

You will listen to what I say here son, and it will save your marriage and sanity. Don't even think of questioning me either. This here is something you do. It's sacred. A RULE that any smart man with a female attachment needs to know - and it don't come in the handbook.

The Rule of Three

Any time you and your wife (to be) are presented with a domestic decision, your wife picks three choices that she likes and you then eliminate the one you hate the most.

* Grimwell spits again, dribbling some on a dusty boot.

"Shit"

* Grimwell kicks some dirt over the spit on the boot.

What? No. That's it. I ain't got nothing more to say. Stop looking at me like an idiot and expecting more. It's that simple.

Ok fine, more about this then...

You don't care what cumberbund you wear on the wedding day. You don't care what the invitations look like. You don't care about the fancy knobs at the end of the curtain rods. You don't care what the plates and flatware looks like. You don't care what color you paint the children's room.

She does.

But she wants you to care without letting you choose. Too late son, women are like that and you done got yourself one in a bad way. The Rule of Three lets her pick everything, and still gives her the comfort of thinking you were involved in the choice.

The good news is that you will find she's going to like the Rule of Three just as much as you do. You will be watching the game and she will bring you a fresh, cold Pabst, crack the lid for you... and then show you three patterns for the dust ruffle on your bed. I know, I know... I didn't think that much dust fell on the side of a bed either, but I've got a dust ruffle. Well four of them. Most of them have some kind of green in them. They tickle my toes and tell me I'm too close to the bed when I wander in drunk some nights.

Anyway, I digress.

* Grimwell spits

So take that beer, look at the patterns for the dust ruffle, and be honest, tell her which one you hate the most and say "Honey, I love you dearly, but if you put the one with the green vines and little pink flower buds on our bed, I'll stab children." Yes, you can be that honest. She will then pick the one she wants from the remaining two, and you can get back to your game.

She will love you more for this.

Oh, and just a friendly tip, don't let her know that you know shes actually picking something she knows you will reject so she can turn around and buy the one she wants anyway. You don't care if she games the system, it lets you pretend to care when you don't and makes her happy which is all you fucking care about my friend.

Best of luck, and congratulations.

* Grimwell tips his hat and rides off into the sunset.

[schild]

Roleplaying that was too nerdy for words. I'd stab you in the head with a pack of sharpened chewing gum right now if I had such an implement on me.

[Grimwell]

True, but I never get to do any writing and the Rule of Three is worth your pain. Trust me, it works when you aren't married too.

Also - elope in Vegas and THEN have the pretty wedding for all the people who don't know. This is a major stress remover.

[Grimwell]

True, but I never get to do any writing and the Rule of Three is worth your pain. Trust me, it works when you aren't married too.

Also - elope in Vegas and THEN have the pretty wedding for all the people who don't know. This is a major stress remover.

Edited to include: Plus, outside of roleplay, I'm never going to be able to suggest that a can of Pabst is a good thing.

Edited to include: I hit quote instead of modify. I think that earns me a one day ban. Enjoy your day. :P

[Zaljerem]

Nerdy roleplay or not, that is excellent advice.

Congratulations ... may good fortune smile on you, and may your first child be a masculine child.

I myself, I don't think I'm ever going back. The odds aren't all that great to start, then you throw in the spoiled, entitled, selfish, materialistic females that seem to make up most of my generation of women ...

No more broken homes, no more children I don't get to live with, no more bending over backwards to fulfill selfish whims, no one to answer to ...

I'm really not that bitter ... only sometimes ...

[WayAbvPar]

Grats! Getting married was the smartest thing I have ever done. Not sure my wife feels the same way, but she is stuck with me now!

[JWIV]

Congratulations!   Enjoy the wedding and honeymoon!  After the planning and insanity both will bring out, you'll need the escape!

[bhodi]

You should elope to somewhere warm and sandy! Weddings are designed to rape every inch of your wallet and you can get an all-inclusive two-week-long honeymoon for the price you spend on an afternoon in a catered hotel ballroom.

Two friends of mine (separate couples) decided to just skip the wedding and start right on the honeymoon, and they both agreed that it was the best decision they ever made.

[Ironwood]

Have you considered just living in sin for the rest of your life ?

Just throwing that out there.

[Bunk]

Edited to include: Plus, outside of roleplay, I'm never going to be able to suggest that a can of Pabst is a good thing.

That did worry me a little when I read Pabst.

Grats Mal, enjoy the process if you can.

Friends of mine did one of the better approaches I've seen. Took a trip to Hawaii with just the very immediate family and got married on the beach. Came back home and threw a huge backyard bbq for the reception. No rental hall or anything, just a big cheap fun party.

[Malakili]

Have you considered just living in sin for the rest of your life ?

Just throwing that out there.

Yes, unfortunately its a pain to get things like hospital visitation rights that way, also, insurance issues, tax issues, and so forth.  We've been running into all sorts of snags with those sorts of things lately.  And since we are effectively married already anyway (by which I mean, have been living as a married couple would) for a long time anyway, we might as well get the legal side of it done.   The actual reception/event part of it is almost an entirely separate issue from that for us.

[Furiously]

Pabst blue ribbon, the beer that keeps on givin.

[Cyrrex]

I just hope you are prepared for the endless amounts of dramatic and sweaty sex that is about to come your way.

[Sjofn]

Grats! Also: WHEN'S THE DATE OMG. People asked that as soon was we were engaged. As in, we were engaged all of five minutes when that started getting asked.

And since we're giving the traditional unasked for advice: Whatever she decides to do with her last name, be cool with it.

[Malakili]

Grats! Also: WHEN'S THE DATE OMG. People asked that as soon was we were engaged. As in, we were engaged all of five minutes when that started getting asked.

And since we're giving the traditional unasked for advice: Whatever she decides to do with her last name, be cool with it.

yeah we have been asked already as well.  She is probably keeping her name, which is actually my preference as well, but might hyphenate.

[Paelos]

Grats! Also: WHEN'S THE DATE OMG. People asked that as soon was we were engaged. As in, we were engaged all of five minutes when that started getting asked.

And since we're giving the traditional unasked for advice: Whatever she decides to do with her last name, be cool with it.

Just don't make the kids hyphenate. It's ridiculous and they will get made fun of.