Here you go, DV. (moved here because it aint about gaming)

[Train Wreck]

Last night, I witnessed a friendship get destroyed because they discussed their problems in their blogs, in front of all their other friends (and bored, nosey people like me), instead of keeping it private.

You cannot say that without providing links. It's just not fair to the rest of us.

I was going to try to wade through the blog war and pull out the interesting parts, but it's a bit complicated.  A little bit here... and little bit there... until you piece together what happened for yourselves.  I'm not one to make jokes at other people's expense.  But I have to wonder:  how much dignity do they really have left that needs protecting, anyway?  Didn't they throw it out there for everybody to see?  Will it even matter?  Will anybody know who they are?

Well, yes and no.  The site in question is not free (the reason I can't link to it directly), so it's only visable to whoever happens to have an account.  Also, there is a small element of anonymity by masses.  It's literally a group that I randomly stumbled into that was made up of a close-knit circle of friends... a party where the shit was about to hit the fan.  Most people would have just watched in silence, but I felt compelled -- perhaps from the increased amount of time I've been spending in the F13 forums -- to weigh in on some things:

"Keep it up."
"Hang in there"
"Oh man, that was so fucked up, the way he treated you",  etc.

They were probably like, "Who is this guy?"  "I don't know.  I thought YOU invited him here."

There's just one more important detail.  When you log in, six profiles of people that live by you are randomly selected.  That's how I found them.  Yes, we all live within a 30 minute drive of each other.  Good old southern California.  At the climax of the emotional turmoil, allegations of torrid Disneyland sex came up.  No, I'm not kidding.

It is located at Suicide Girls.  It's kind of like the Yahoo community tools, with the groups and boards and whatnot.  You may be able to imagine that the community is made up of people that are perhaps a little bit edgier than the average crosscut of society.  The kind of people that like lots and lots of body modifications, or at least find beauty in it.  Or, they are like me and just couldn't resist the temptation to take a little peak or two.

There are some real beauties there.  It's in good taste.  You might see a boob here and there, but nothing raunchy.  Something I find fascinating about it is that many of the models are recruited from within the community of users, and when they finally get their own photoshot, it's like a celebration on the chat boards and stuff.  This underlying community, completely hidden until you get an account, is the real strength of the site.  And it's also the original thing that I was supposed to be talking about, in regards to the details of the blog clusterfuck I watched a couple nights ago.

The community is a collection of punks, goths, strippers, models, drunks, and thanks to a link on seanbaby.com, gamers.  Oh, I'm sure you get the normal person too, from time to time.  When you mix them all together, and give each person their own blog, stuff happens.

Anyways, here it begins:

*Asshole boyfriend goes back to "ex-wife" because they "accidently weren't really divorced, after all".  Etc.  She asked friend not to get involved*

So, what do you think her friend decided to do?

[Paelos]

Hmmm, let me guess. He had a sit down with her ex and told him how desperate she was to find him.

[Dark Vengeance]

Keep the story coming. It can only get better from here.

Bring the noise.
Cheers............

[Shockeye]

Keep the story coming. It can only get better from here.

No, it can't.

[Righ]

So, what do you think her friend decided to do?

So anyhow, here are his genitals. He's currently bleeding to death in an a motel room in downtown San Diego. The bloody writing on the mirror says "Don't fuck with the Suicide Girls".

[AlteredOne]

Umm, he found her ex, had a threesome with the ex and his new lover, and brought back a suggestion that she come make it a foursome?

And there was rum, sodomy, and a lash involved.

[Train Wreck]

*Friend admits to calling up jackass ex bf and bitching him out.  They have sex one last time, then she bitches him out*

Right now, they are no longer speaking to each other.

But they are speaking to their blogs.

[Righ]

Look, does this get any better than playground love? Where are the emasculated and sodomized corpses in this story?

[Train Wreck]

Where are the emasculated and sodomized corpses in this story?

It's a blog fight, not a porno.

I found it to be interesting in a car wreck sort of way... one that you can see happening a good 10 seconds before the crash.

EDIT: My original comment when bringing the whole thing up is that I couldn't believe the personal stuff people write in their blogs, and how I watched a friendship get ruined because they commented publicly with a virtual audience instead of trying to work it out.

[stray]

The scary thing is that blog fighting and domestic disputes over virtual space and items will be commonplace in 20 years. With all the predictions that "futurists" and sci-fi writers get into, whether it be flying cars, nanotech, or super duper coffee machines, they never include stuff like this.

Haemish, if you're still writing a cyberpunk novel, make sure to include it.

[Train Wreck]

His public apology to her on his blog is veiled with accusations of her being a slut.  I don't know why he even went there, unless the goal wasn't really to make up after all.

[Signe]

Like sands through the hourglass, so are the Days of our Lives...

[Dark Vengeance]

Right now, they are no longer speaking to each other.

But they are speaking to their blogs.

Brilliant!

Reminds me of a chess lesson by Josh Waitzkin about "the 2nd mistake". He basically talks about how after you make a mistake, there is tendency to be agitated, reactive....which often leads to another mistake if you aren't careful and focused.

She blogged on it, which is already a mistake.....then she gave the other guy his info.

I'm sure the drama quotient increases substantially from here.

Bring the noise.
Cheers............

[Train Wreck]

She blogged on it, which is already a mistake.....then she gave the other guy his info.

I'm sure the drama quotient increases substantially from here.

It does.  Especially since we haven't heard from the others yet.  Until now.  Jimmy (the "friend") breaks his silence.

*Having a wave of guilt.  Nobody's dirty laundry should be paraded by anybody but themselves*  If it were 100% public, I would point the way, however.

[daveNYC]

Right now, they are no longer speaking to each other.

But they are speaking to their blogs.

I tried, but I couldn't come up with a clever way to express how fundamentally wrong that is.  The internet is a great way to leverage human stupidity.

[stray]

It's a blog fight, not a porno.

I found it to be interesting in a car wreck sort of way... one that you can see happening a good 10 seconds before the crash.

I know what your thinking, ”Is the fat guy ever going to shut up?” Well, no. I’m getting it out and if you don’t want to read then don’t, just say, “WOW that’s a long entry sorry I only look at hot naked punk rock girls”, and then just leave.

Hmm, unless the ex-boyfriend gets his own blog, I've already lost interest.

Spritual though I am, more hot naked punk rock girls please. I don't know why I've postponed having a subscription there for so long. Sounds like my kind of place.

[Train Wreck]

This is why blogs are a poor way of saying "I'm sorry."

He then preceded to go on about his new girlfriend that lives on the other side of the country, and stuff.  I think that's the real reason he wrote a humiliating apology -- that is, humiliating to the person he was supposed to be apologizing to.  Kind of like how Revan made that Admiral Karath guy blow up Telos to prove his new loyalty, or something.

Then the first girl went on a date with one of the other guys, and all of a sudden, the first guy was no longer "moving on", and got all pissed off at both of them.

This is life, no surprises there.  My shock is, why are they documenting it for the world?

[stray]

This is life, no surprises there.  My shock is, why are they documenting it for the world?

Like I said, it's teh "Future".

Digital convergence on everyday life and whatnot...Today we're still confused that people have carried things like this into the digital realm, or that there's situations like the guy who blew his brains out over EQ, or a guy wants damages paid over a girlfriend deleting characters in Lineage etc., etc..

Tomorrow, unfortunately, this will all be an everyday thing. Though much worse (I fear that the Japanese have already ceased from being "human" already).

Hell, it's barely any more strange than me and you having a "conversation" or "friends" in irc or on a message board. The people above have just gone several steps further, but sooner or later, we'll be right where they are now.

Sorry for the derail, it's just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. And I guess it applies.

[Margalis]

EDIT: My original comment when bringing the whole thing up is that I couldn't believe the personal stuff people write in their blogs, and how I watched a friendship get ruined because they commented publicly with a virtual audience instead of trying to work it out.

[/quote]

Some people want attention. It really is that simple. It's not a mistake, or even stupidity. Just attention seeking.

[Train Wreck]

Hell, it's barely any more strange than me and you having a "conversation" or "friends" in irc or on a message board. The people above have just gone several steps further, but sooner or later, we'll be right where they are now.

I don't think it will spread out too far because most people are more private about their lives.  Bantering in IRC is much more different than writing about your latest broken heart and putting in a place where thousands of people can read it.

Hell, I have a blog on there too, but the deepest thing I've written about so far is the joys of being drunk.

[Llava]

Some people want attention. It really is that simple. It's not a mistake, or even stupidity. Just attention seeking.

[schild]

That's the worst GIS ever. I can see you took the second pic in the GIS. The trick is to press the "medium" button and go to some random page, like 13. Here's what I would have picked.



See, that makes you sit back and think, "What the fuck? Did I just see what I think I saw?"

...I'm very bored.

[Train Wreck]

Spritual though I am, more hot naked punk rock girls please. I don't know why I've postponed having a subscription there for so long. Sounds like my kind of place.

Cool, man.  Check out the DRUNKS group when you get there.  Unless you hate drinking.

Since one of my goals is to get drunk with punk rocker chicks, it seemed a logical place to start.

[schild]

Hmmm, I recently canceled my subscription there. But they just offered me a year for $24.95. Maybe I'll take them up on that. Getting a full site rip really removes the allure from the place.

Edit: Though, I did love the forums and interviews.

[Train Wreck]

Hmmm, I recently canceled my subscription there. But they just offered me a year for $24.95. Maybe I'll take them up on that. Getting a full site rip really removes the allure from the place.

Edit: Though, I did love the forums and interviews.

I like the social aspect even more than the pics.  I mean, the latest set is of a goth chick sitting in a bathtub full of red water that is just... wrong.  I'm just now starting to appreciate the tatoos, but some things I will never be into.

[stray]

Some people want attention. It really is that simple. It's not a mistake, or even stupidity. Just attention seeking.

Ah yes. Sometimes things are really that simple. Pardon the previous rant. Too much caffiene tonight.

Cool, man. Check out the DRUNKS group when you get there. Unless you hate drinking.

Drunks, eh? Do wino's count? I certainly do not hate drinking, but I'm probably a little boring compared to the average drunk. If it's out of the glass, I'm "refined", and if I keep a bottle or two for myself, I'll reach a comatose state. Either way, there's no middle ground, and I bypass the "completely shitfaced and pissing myself" stage. It's no fun for others, I think.

[Train Wreck]

Not sure how this link will turn out if you're not yet a member, but DRUNKS can be found here.

A place for drunks to make new drinking friends and limit our senseless babbling to one group, or a place for us to get drunk together then screw up all the other boards en masse. Drunks always need to meet new drinking friends cuz we repeat ourselves a lot and get sick of hearing the same stories over and over but never seem to get sick of TELLING them over and over...

I especially like their encouragement of drunk-posting to the other groups.

I'm not a raging drunk, either.  Mostly it is people looking for new drinks to try, sharing their own recipes, home remedies for hang overs, etc.  Basically, think back to the f13 forums when we had the filtered Vodka thread, beer brewing thread, etc, and imagine about 20 such threads going at once:  that's the forum in DRUNKS.  I see a brand new thread called "Busted: Drunk Pics!" just got started -- that should be good.

Plenty of wine drinkers there, too.

[Soukyan]

Hmmm, I recently canceled my subscription there. But they just offered me a year for $24.95. Maybe I'll take them up on that. Getting a full site rip really removes the allure from the place.

Edit: Though, I did love the forums and interviews.

I recently canceled mine also, but 25 bucks for a year... that's quite a bargain compared to their monthly fee.

[AlteredOne]

Hmmm, I recently canceled my subscription there. But they just offered me a year for $24.95. Maybe I'll take them up on that. Getting a full site rip really removes the allure from the place.

Edit: Though, I did love the forums and interviews.

While my former goth-dabbling self might enjoy the soap opera aspect, I fear that my wife might not appreciate the amateur pr0n part.  Oh well, guess I'll just continue being a boring married guy.

[Train Wreck]

While my former goth-dabbling self might enjoy the soap opera aspect, I fear that my wife might not appreciate the amateur pr0n part.  Oh well, guess I'll just continue being a boring married guy.

It doesn't really seem like pr0n.  It's even a few notches below Playboy

[Paelos]

While my former goth-dabbling self might enjoy the soap opera aspect, I fear that my wife might not appreciate the amateur pr0n part.  Oh well, guess I'll just continue being a boring married guy.

It doesn't really seem like pr0n.  It's even a few notches below Playboy

Titties on the net = porn. To wives and offices especially.

[CmdrSlack]

That's why it's essential to fall in love with a girl who likes porn, if you also happen to like porn.

I can't even get my hands on the latest issue of Playboy before my girlfriend reads it, and it comes to my house...go figure.

[Soukyan]

That's why it's essential to fall in love with a girl who likes porn, if you also happen to like porn.

I can't even get my hands on the latest issue of Playboy before my girlfriend reads it, and it comes to my house...go figure.

My ex worked at Barnes and Noble and used to bring porn home for me. I had the same problem with her reading them first. God, I miss her...

[Train Wreck]

Looks like our protagonist got banned today.  She has a grey line through her name, and profile is gone.  So sad, all she wanted was a little bit of love.  And a touch of revenge.

Edit: BTW, what the hell is a GIS?

[Soukyan]

GIS = Google Image Search