The Pursuit of Mr. Happy

[Furiously]

I think it's awesome that you are going out to experience the nightlife of LA. Maybe you could write a guidebook.

You seem to have a plan. I think enough people here have commented on it.

What are you looking to get out of this?

[Lantyssa]

"Mr. Happy"

[HaemishM]

But I was kind of pissed when I picked up my jeans from the side of the bead, after she left, and found out she had puked on them!  Bitch.

Win. You should have pissed on her cat.

[Rasix]

I like this thread because even though in the normal world I'm slightly shy and much, much less experienced in these matters than all the "normal" people I know, in here I feel (relatively) like Hugh Hefner banging three models at once.  Carry on. 

Edit: waste of time.  I still want to kick you in the teeth every time you post something like this.

[stray]

You should read more about what Hugh Hefner is really like. According to some his issues would put most people here to shame.

He's a unique marketer, that's all I know. All kinds of magazines sell a lifestyle, but he was the first to make himself the image of that lifestyle. And I guess, eventually and actually become it.

[Sky]

Banging three models at once is overrated. But you should definitely find out for yourself!

[Engels]

Banging three models at once is overrated. But you should definitely find out for yourself!

I think Tri meant this:

[Merusk]

Butt...

Butt..then you'd have to take them out of the box! 

[schild]

Butt...

Butt..

What what?

[Merusk]

Yeah. I'm very tired and not functioning well is my only excuse. I'm home with a son who has an ear infection and pinkeye.  Daycares are wonderful germ incubators.

[Nazrat]

Yeah. I'm very tired and not functioning well is my only excuse. I'm home with a son who has an ear infection and pinkeye.  Daycares are wonderful germ incubators.

I'll see your sick kid and raise you my 6 year old with pink eye, the flu and strep throat.  My wife and I have been tag teaming sick days this week just to keep up with the medications. 

How has this not made it to the Den yet?

[Paelos]

How has this not made it to the Den yet?

I think once threads go past 5 pages it takes an Act of Congress to get them denned.

[Ingmar]

How did I miss this thread until now? 

It seems to me that this thread is awfully short on advice to treat women like equally functioning human beings. Which, like, you know, they are. I guarantee that long-term this "not dismissing the woman herself as an inconvenient accompaniment to sex" approach will result in generally more happiness for all.

[Trippy]

How has this not made it to the Den yet?

Cause it's easier to just have one soc.singles thread where everybody can post into instead of people constantly starting their own threads.

Edit: fixed quoting

[HAMMER FRENZY]

Wow, I am still surprised every time I see that this thread is updated. Awful, awful idea...

[nurtsi]

I don't know if this applies to any of you, but a really common reason for the lack of adventures with the opposite sex (or same if that's your thing) with my friends is work. Many people I studied with in university are really devoted to their work. Every weekday is basically the same, wake up, go to work, come home really late (after something like 10 or 12 hours). Weekends usually consist of going to a restaurant with friends and eating dinner, maybe watching a movie or cooking at someone's home. Many of the folks have started their own company, which makes it even easier to spend "too much" time at the office. Life has kinda settled in a way where meeting new people is not very common. Yes, people still throw parties and what not, but it's mostly the same faces in all of them.

Now we've talked about this with my friends several times, is work the reason people don't have so much luck with getting girlfriends or is it just an easy escape? Just bury yourself in work and you don't have to think about the thing. The thing we all agree on is that it is very easy to lose yourself in work.

[Sky]

It's an excuse. You see valid candidates every single day, but you'll never know unless you have the will to find out. Go to the supermarket or library or something once in a while.

[Selby]

It's an excuse. You see valid candidates every single day, but you'll never know unless you have the will to find out. Go to the supermarket or library or something once in a while.

Or maybe they just don't care?  No matter what people here like to brag about, I would never strike up a conversation with some random stranger at the grocery store or a library.  Especially not for any remote purpose such as dating.  I go shopping all of the time and most people have kids in tow or are with their significant others, the last thing they want is some clueless moron like me talking to them.

[Hindenburg]

That'd be because you're ugly, as we've already discussed.

I would never strike up a conversation with some random stranger at the grocery store or a library. 

On top of that, as many here have already said, if you don't try, you'll never find them. Finding a date and self-esteem are, at times, at odds.

[Selby]

On top of that, as many here have already said, if you don't try, you'll never find them.

Yeah... at the grocery store.  Right next to the celery and lettuce.

[Nevermore]

No, no.  Obviously you should be striking up conversations with the ones loitering around the cucumbers and zucchini.

[Hindenburg]

I'm particularly fond of the frozen dinner section.

[Lantyssa]

Here's a Mr. Happy for a select group of our readers.  (Larger pic for your enjoyment through the link.)

[Merusk]

It's an excuse. You see valid candidates every single day, but you'll never know unless you have the will to find out. Go to the supermarket or library or something once in a while.

Or maybe they just don't care?  No matter what people here like to brag about, I would never strike up a conversation with some random stranger at the grocery store or a library.  Especially not for any remote purpose such as dating.  I go shopping all of the time and most people have kids in tow or are with their significant others, the last thing they want is some clueless moron like me talking to them.

Yeah, see.. that's a problem right there. You don't talk to the ones with kids, rings or S.O.s if you're looking for a date.   Get the basics right first, yo.

[Strazos]

But excuses and rationalization are so damn easy.

[stray]

Please don't.

[Paelos]

I find Sky's advice the most amusing in this whole mess. Aging rockers give the best sex advice. It would never apply to the normal nerd, but it does have gems of wisdom.

[Murgos]

It needs to be said again.  WOMEN ARE PEOPLE.

Jeezus, your not going to bend the girl over and poke around in her produce section in the middle of the grocery store, you are trying to make a friend that you share MUTUAL attraction with.  Remember that term, friendship?  Friends?  Get it, shes a person?

How did you meet all your guy friends?  You started talking to them somewhere at sometime didn't you?  Talk to the girl and if it turns out that she's funny and interesting and attractive, someone you can enjoy being with then, hang out with her more often.  And, YES, you have to let her know you think she is attractive.

Guess what?  You are going to have to make friends with several women before finding one that's, not only available, but interested in you too.  The cute girl with the small child?   Go talk to her.  The child is her niece.

[Signe]

Are you drunk?

[Murgos]

Are you drunk?

Not as much as you are.

[Sky]

Aging rockers

HEY WHAT WHO SONOFA

So what? 

[Oban]

  The cute girl with the small child?   Go talk to her.  The child is her niece.

 

[Paelos]

Aging rockers

HEY WHAT WHO SONOFA

So what? 

 

[Arnold]

Now we've talked about this with my friends several times, is work the reason people don't have so much luck with getting girlfriends or is it just an easy escape? Just bury yourself in work and you don't have to think about the thing. The thing we all agree on is that it is very easy to lose yourself in work.

So, it's like getting drunk, but without the buzz?

[Arnold]

It's an excuse. You see valid candidates every single day, but you'll never know unless you have the will to find out. Go to the supermarket or library or something once in a while.

Or maybe they just don't care?  No matter what people here like to brag about, I would never strike up a conversation with some random stranger at the grocery store or a library.  Especially not for any remote purpose such as dating.  I go shopping all of the time and most people have kids in tow or are with their significant others, the last thing they want is some clueless moron like me talking to them.

Yeah, see.. that's a problem right there. You don't talk to the ones with kids, rings or S.O.s if you're looking for a date.   Get the basics right first, yo.

Maybe not.  I think the "clueless moron" thing is the biggest deal - a shyness or self esteem issue.  A wingman can be a huge help here, to break the ice.