The Pursuit of Mr. Happy

[Evildrider]

Find a Cougar.   

[stray]

Cougers need some petting. Which he probably has no clue how to do yet.


Damnit, must resist.

[Paelos]

Also, and in all respect, you have more of a foundation to why you're in the same situation. It's a choice for you. And that's cool. But Lorekeep isn't choosing it.

But then, perhaps he can learn something from you anyhow.

Yeah that's true, I suppose. I just want to make sure he doesn't do something silly.

[NiX]

Cougers need some petting. Which he probably has no clue how to do yet.


Damnit, must resist.

Unless he finds one of those cougars that wants mold him to her whims.

[stray]

I've never met one of those. They're free spirits. [edit] <- That sounds way more serious than it should be.

[Le0]

Don't listen to these guys :)

I've been in the same position as you, only I was a 24 years old virgin nerd, playing video games and being anti social.

Apparently from what I read, you are liking what you do, exploring bars etc.. and it is fun stuff to do, even if you are alone, like you said you learn stuff that way.
Also you don't seem too desperate about it either, I was way more desperate than you it seems, I pretty much stalked a girl I liked and in the end she rejected me. What I mean by that is, just be cool about it, go explore this beautiful world and you will surely stumble upon someone that will interest you, and that will be interested in you as well. I'd not try playing games, being someone who you are not because in the end it will show. Also keep in mind I'm European so things surely are different over here.

The only thing is maybe you should lower your standard. Good luck, it will come, just keep doing what you do and eventually you'll get laid and probably be disappointed in the end because sex is not the be all of it!

[Teleku]

My goal is to hookup with a Japanese girl

I really don't think you do. Maybe Japanese-American, but I don't think you want to have to deal with a Japanese girl. You don't own the "I want to date a Japanese girl" kanji shirt? Do you? I think I'd have to beat you up if you did.

Yeah, double this.  I can attest after living in Japan for a year straight, you don't in fact want to date/hook-up/marry a Japanese chick.  Really, YOU DONT.  There is a biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig difference between Asian and Asian-American.

[Oban]

I was going to post something here about my first wife versus my second wife, but I will just say that maybe you should try and find an Asian that is fresh off the boat.

[Ironwood]

Seriously, what the fuck is this ?  This is like the 5th thread of this nature and I'm getting frankly fucked off with them.  Can't we make a 'sad fucking losers' subforum ?

 

[NowhereMan]

Post personal stuff to Politics?

[Ironwood]

No.

[Jeff Kelly]

Can't we make a 'sad fucking losers' subforum ?

1. You don't need to read every shiny new thread just because it's there.
2. People asking for advice is most probably better than the umpteenth thread about abortion or global warming in politics or the regular 'all things that are wrong with mmorpgs' feature.
3. Don't be a cunt.

[Triforcer]

I agree with Ironwood.  This is one of those mini-trends that the mods need to stop in its tracks.  When I am fat or lonely, I don't confide in people here because nobody cares or at worst wants me to die horribly.  Lets all keep it that way.   

[Oban]

When I am fat or lonely, I don't confide in people here because nobody cares or at worst wants me to die horribly. 

I actually enjoying going to jj.am for the animated horrors album.

[Jeff Kelly]

When I am fat or lonely, I don't confide in people here because nobody cares or at worst wants me to die horribly.  Lets all keep it that way.   

Words. I don't have any.

[Ironwood]

Can't we make a 'sad fucking losers' subforum ?

1. You don't need to read every shiny new thread just because it's there.
2. People asking for advice is most probably better than the umpteenth thread about abortion or global warming in politics or the regular 'all things that are wrong with mmorpgs' feature.
3. Don't be a cunt.

I'm essentially reading a 1500 word essay on why someone can't get their weasel greased.

Come on to fuck, some things go beyond fucking empathy.

[nurtsi]

There's already discussion about music, cooking, photography, decorating, and all kinds of shit. Why not add social issues as well.

It is the people who make the community. Someone gets married, we congratulate them. Someone has a baby, we're happy for them. Someone loses their job, we tell them it's gonna be okay. Someone tries to loose some weight, we cheer for them. Someone has problems, we try to help or at least listen.

[Arthur_Parker]

Make an e/n subforum, let Ironwood moderate it, everybody wins.

[HAMMER FRENZY]

Yeah, I think that people who can't balance a social life with doing what they like to do are weenies. If you want to meet girls, meet girls. Talk to them and don't fucking grill them about shit they don't want to talk about. Also don't post this crap here. Not that people don't care, cause some people obviously do, but some of the negative feedback can be hurtful and the anonymous nature of the interwebs encourages a lot of people to be needlessly cruel. It will only make what you are trying to do harder, not easier.

[Ironwood]

Make an e/n subforum, let Ironwood moderate it, everybody wins.

Not a good idea.  I'm reminded of when Rimmer was on the Samaritans Helpline for a day and had 5 suicides.  The joke being one guy had the wrong number.

Look, I'm not being cruel here.  I'm honestly not, it's just that this kind of whining isn't like being married, or having kids or losing weight or even, God Help Us, having a dream of opening up a doughnut shop.  It's entirely different.

It's about this place not being your own private blog.  Sure, if things come out in a thread (hell, my depression did) then you can chat about it as a derail, why the hell not, but it's NOT good form to post MY Awful Life and How Awful it Is HALP Pls type of thread.

Especially when you're not even asking for advice, really, you just want someone to listen.  There are Professionals out there for that type of thing and I thoroughly reccomend you USE THEM.

I'm going to give the same fucking advice I've given in the other threads, for what it's worth :  THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

Life's too short for this crap.


That's NOT US.  Look around, ffs, do you REALLY want advice from these chaps ?  On Purpose ?

 

[Tebonas]

On the one hand, this might be the ideal peer group if you want to find people that lost their virginity late as well.

On the other hand, they might have lost their virginity by sheer luck, so what tips can they give?


I'm just saying this because I notice a trend where people ask about advice here about stuff they should ask professionals about. Its disconcerting insofar as one of these days somebody might take the advice given in here. And you fuckers will be in a world of pain when you realize you drove some random internet acquaintance to do a stupid and/or life threatening thing.

Don't get advice on healthcare on a random internet forum.
Don't ask random internet forum people for relationship advice.
Don't ask people who spent their formative years in a MMoG how to get laid.


I like being here and reading everything you write. But taking real life advice given here serious is a recipe for disaster!

[NowhereMan]

I think you should listen to Angry.bob, he seems to possess just the right combination for empathy for your situation and callous disregard for women that will see your life become a success story

[Tebonas]

Actually empirical data shows that you get laid as soon as you don't desperately need to anymore. All those women throwing themselves at you while you are fresh in a new relationship? They smell the total lack of desperation! 

[NowhereMan]

I clearly need to master Zen Buddhism and rid myself of desire. Of course I'm doing that as part of the desire but I'm sure all that zen will sort that particular paradox right out. And then I'll get laid Zen style!

[rattran]

Desperation communicates itself. Relax, don't try to get laid, just try to meet people and make friends.

Or drive to Nevada and pay an attractive, hygenic, friendly prostitute. It may give you confidence enough to meet women on your own.

Though I think threads like this need to either go on your own blog, Serious Business, or the fucking Den.

[Nevermore]

1) Prepare for flames about this place not being a blog.

Prophetic.

[Signe]

Congratulations in advance on losing your virginity! 

[sigil]

I really don't think women could handle it if they had to handle the amount of rejection men take as a matter of course.  Their egos would be destroyed by it.

THIS.


Everything else has been covered.  You might want  to work on developing alcoholism to help with the anxiety 

Also, what ironwood said. Next thing you know we'll be doing facebook clubs and myspace bulletins and shit.

[nurtsi]

Oi! F13 Facebook group! 

[sigil]

Oi! F13 Facebook group! 

Get the fuck out.

[grebo]

 Also don't fall in love with the first person you sleep with or your followup post might be longer.

This a whole bunch, 15 years of my life implores you.  It's tough to spot the crazy with no frame of reference.

[Broughden]

I agree with Ironwood.
Fuck I didnt even want to hear about Schild's ass pimple.
I certainly dont give a fuck that there are this many 20+ virgins on this forum.

I dont care how big a nerd you are. Hire a god damn hooker for fucks sake. 

[Montague]

Just as a friendly FYI to the OP:

If you're a 27 year old virgin, the last thing you want to do is troll through bars (in LA no less) trying to get laid. It's like the old saw about a 5 year old toddling off into the woods to hunt bears. If he's very lucky he won't find what he's looking for.

[Simond]

[stray]

I'm just saying this because I notice a trend where people ask about advice here about stuff they should ask professionals about. Its disconcerting insofar as one of these days somebody might take the advice given in here. And you fuckers will be in a world of pain when you realize you drove some random internet acquaintance to do a stupid and/or life threatening thing.

I don't know. Granted, Lorekeep made a long ass, weird thread, but I think you guys are being a bit dramatic. It's harmless. It's also harmless to talk to him. Exactly what advice is anyone giving, that would get him in some kind of trouble, and where we would be in a world of pain? Personally, I'm pretty stumped on how to give the guy much helpful advice, to be honest... My first sexual experiences almost coincided the minute I started dating girls. But I don't think it's a bad idea if someone comes up with something to help him along. It doesn't hurt at least.

Most of the internet consists of this type of confessionary, relationship talk. If you were to ask me, I'd say the need to depersonalize as much as possible, like here, is actually unusual.