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The last word has not been spoken, but it looks like I have lost the love of my life.

I am about to get really drunk as I write this

Help ? Advice ? Recipes for strong alcoholic beverages ?

Hmmm.  Try as hard as you can or you will regret it.  Don't do anything really stupid.

Do you smoke?

I will, but she seemed awfully determined.

About 200 miles part us at the moment, no chance to to that.
(Apart from calling her in the next few hours)

No.And I do not fell like killing myself.  :|

IF THERE EVER WAS A TIME SIR, THIS IS WHAT SMOKES WERE CREATED FOR.

(No worse than pickling your liver)

You will need to apply thought and persistence.  I'm not suggesting anything will be fixed over the weekend.  If, at the end of it, you tried your best and failed then that will be as big a consolation as you can ever get (which is actually rather big), and that's the worst case.  Best case, you win.

Women always seem determined, don't let that deter you.  Well, refer back to "don't do anything stupid", but the important bit is to not give up prematurely.

Also don't take advice from internet assholes.

200 miles?

It may just be time to move on. I agree with who ever said, don't do anything stupid. This also includes lots of overly long productions of love and other sappy things, its does neither of you any good, and with 200 miles, will only lead to bad things later and bloating the situation to a point of no return ...ever.

2 hours of travelling ? That's nothing. No way.

You made it sound as if that was the crux of the issue. Thats still long distance...As if you have to PLAN to see each other, not just "Flow" together in life.

Advice from assholes is what the internet was made for, right ?

That and Porn(tm)!

Never thought about that. It just came naturally. But that could have been part of the problem.



(Looks like my Vocab./Grammar/Spelling are detoriating fast, sorry for that...)

You're supposed to make these threads after you're drunk, not before.  I haven't read a good drunken thread in some time, it seems Cheddar has moved his drinks cabinet away from the computer.

Oh, no worries, if it satisfies you, I will keep posting when I come back. :-)

Swear off women for a while. You might end up with a semi-popular website.

Take up smoking.

Smoking is to expensive over here, but I hear you on the website thing.

Just take some time off, try not to make a big deal about it, see what happens.

Ok, heading off now to get reallly drunk. I might appear on a TS server or here in the forum in a few hours, thank you for bearing with me through all of this.
(If the above sentence dos not make any sense, translate it word by word in german)

Don't get drunk.

DH,

You seem like a decent guy.  If she doesn't recognize that, I'd recommend that you find a woman that does.  The key to any successful relationship lies in the fact that both people must see the good in the other and feel lucky for having them in their lives.  If it's a one-way street, all the work in the world won't make your relationship worthwhile.  Don't beg her to come back.  Don't do anything of the sort.  If she doesn't see the value in having you in her life, then you should find a woman that really does appreciate you.  

I'm so sorry for your situation.  It sucks right now, but it will get better.  Either she will recognize that she wants to be with you or you'll find a quality woman that appreciates you even more.  

What Nebu said.

Der Helm is absolutely adorable.  He is obviously too good for her.  God, I hate her so much!  I'LLKILLHERFORHURTINGYOU!

Yeah, making a huge issue about it now, could hurt any possibilities later.

State how you feel, leave the ball in her court...move on, don't wait (Don't wait means get on with your life, make a website, do a hobby..dosn't mean "Find new girl now!1!").

Whatever you do, don't get liquored up and call her. That's a deathknell.

When it happened to me, I tied my best to talk to her about it and understand what the deal was, but the reality was she had checked out long before saying anything about it. This is usually the case. Get with your close friends and have a good time. Continue to go out places with people. Don't be insular, and don't spend the majority of your time online. Getting out is good.

Oh and get a dog if you don't have one. Dogs rock!

Cross-country roadtrip while wearing a diaper inc!

Have you considered a weighted companion cube? (http://xs320.xs.to/xs320/07415/emot-lovewcc.gif)

You so just won.

DO NOT START SMOKING.

Heh.

Has anyone suggested hookers and blow yet?

No, Why?  :-D


God I am so drunk!

Ya, blow the hookers.  That's a good plan.

Huh?

Oh, before I forget, I managed to accomplish that.

Bah, fuck her, she's not worth your time.  She's determined to end it, I'm guessing that she's already been fucking someone else. 

In the end, if someone wants to leave they're not worth worrying about.  Yes, I'm jaded and cynical and heartless.  I'm also married and don't worry too much about this, and when I stopped that's how I wound-up married in the first place.

I'd also throw-out the misogynistic view that women love it when you treat them like shit.. but that's only partially true and not for all women.

Depends on Daddy. ^_^

That would make it so easy, more or less sadly, you are wrong.

OK, so ya got drunk. Hopefully you didn't already try to chat her up and start pining yet?

Anyways, here's my last piece of advice: Concentrate on her shittiest qualities. Every single one of them (and don't tell me she's that great..you'd be bullshitting me and yourself). Start with this one: She's gone, far away, and doesn't give a shit about you.

The more you accept that, the more you'll probably find that you don't even like much about her at all, that you bullshitted yourself, and that she was just a crutch for your own lonliness. Believe me, it'll all click soon enough!

Seriously. It's either that or you could blow your brains out (or whatever the kids do in Germany these days).

Don't drunk dial.

The only intoxicant that may even make sense is really pot, and quite honestly, that could go sour too.

Stray is spot on here, so I'd listen to him.

However, if you're going to continue boozing, Samuel Smith's Winter Welcome is out, so get that and have at it.

I got pretty drunk in 2001.

For 3 months.

It cured all ails.

I can't say don't drink. Or I'd be a hypocrite.

You could always cheer yourself up with the fact that none of us actually care and, in a year or less, neither will you.

Some good advice in this thread and some people who clearly just want you to fuck off and die.  Don't start smoking; that's the most moronic advice I've ever heard.  I think I can top it though :  Herion takes away all pain, you might want to start shooting up.

Whoa, looks like I was really drunk.

Amazingly it worked.

I feel better.

I think.

Thanks all.

i think having a lot of water poured over your head is a great therapy. maybe if u have a shower just sit under for a while.

And then turn tricks to make a few bucks for another hit.  Heroin Chiq is in, you should make enough money before the teeth fall out to get you to the final stages.

But yeah, if you stay sober, in a year you won't care anyway.  Though that advice never makes me feel better after a break-up either.

Well, I will have a ton of work in the next few months, never thought that could be a good thing.

Man, I spelled Heroin wrong.  How bad is that ?

So... what's her phone number?

I know it's too late, but I thought I'd throw in my two cents.

Women feed on drama, I think they physically need it.  The last few times I've been dumped my response was to basically just say, "Okey dokey".  Don't freak out, don't try to argue with her.  Be civil about it, and just say, "Well, I'm sorry it didn't work out.  See you around."  This has never failed to haunt the girl I was going out with, because when they break up they really want, nay, they need to have some giant movie-like confrontation.  Nip that shit in the bud, and let her stew.  By not acting all anguished and hurt you're dealing a massive goddamned stroke to her ego.  She'll start thinking, "Why doesn't he care, am I that worthless?"

Best revenge I know of.

Gotta agree with Big Gulp. Even if you think that your woman is somehow different, that she's not silly and vain, just chin up, walk away. If she comes back, negotiate terms and lord her lack of constancy over her like Thor's hammer for the rest of her life. In other words, make sure she does her share of the dishes. If she doesn't come back, just think about something else, do something else, but don't dwell. It never did anyone a bit of good.

And for the love of jesus, do not, I repeat, do not, let her come to you 'as a shoulder to cry on' as a 'friend' when the reason she broke up with you blew up in her face but she's still looking for an upgrade.

I'm just going to reference fuck your mom (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TLA_f7S0cw) now.

That's brilliant.

My favorite thing to do when I got dumped was to curl up in a fetal position, rocking and sobbing on the floor while listening to "It's Too Late" by Carole King.

I think I did that. My memory is fuzzy, though, could have been a cannibal corpse song ...

Ah, you crazy Germans and your fondness of death metal.

Sounds like you made it through the night (day?), and didn't succumb to the drunken callout, so well done.

That was funny but none of my exes had a mom I could entertain even kissing.