Anybody else done with video gaming?

[Merusk]

Of course they do.  Haven't you heard of the cavity creeps?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s8Y_vEKbZhU

[ghost]

The persistent Minecraft multiplayer worlds were very, very interesting.  Is the group here still playing without the monsters?

We've had monsters on as long as I've been on there. I think the server is a version behind right now, though, so I played a little single player over the weekend.

So....creepers cause cavities?

I was on in the very beginning.  Nobody wanted monsters because it would mess up their creations.  Maybe I'll give it another go. 

[Fabricated]

My interest in consoles died this gen, because the TV in my room died and I'm too lazy to buy another one or move my living room's big screen into my room (also because that TV is for when I have people over). Yeah, I know.

I have a goddamn mess of stuff on Steam I haven't even touched from the holiday sale...I picked up Dead Space 1/2 for like $5, Bulletstorm for like $3-5, that last humble bundle (of which I've played...Cave Story again), and like a dozen other games...Oh, I think I played some Dungeons of Dredmore too.

I log onto TOR and WoW when people want to play and get shitfaced drunk on Vent, which is about the highlight of my weekly gaming experience. It's just depressing.

[Evildrider]

Recent drama with my now ex-gf and it being a part of my current gaming life has really put me off on gaming.  Especially since now that she has a chunk of my online friends, except the ones I've known before swtor, thinking i'm some creeper.   

[ghost]

Ooh, that sucks.  I'm glad my wife isn't into gaming, really. 

[Evildrider]

Ooh, that sucks.  I'm glad my wife isn't into gaming, really. 

In some ways it was my fault.  Don't date below your age bracket.  She was 14 years younger than me and I was pretty much thinking with the wrong head. 

[Rasix]

 

[Evildrider]

Ok she was 25, I'm not like totally robbing the cradle.

[Merusk]

Isn't the rule "Don't 'date' 20-somethings.  Ever."  Go higher, go lower* but never in the 20's.



*This idea not valid north of the Mason-Dixon

[Paelos]

*This idea not valid north of the Mason-Dixon

 

[Evildrider]

Isn't the rule "Don't 'date' 20-somethings.  Ever."  Go higher, go lower* but never in the 20's.



*This idea not valid north of the Mason-Dixon

Well 20-somethings today do alot more than the girls when I was a 20-something, that's for sure.  lol

[lamaros]

Awkward...

[Cyrrex]

One only need look at his avatar for clues.

[ghost]

One only need look at his avatar for clues.

I would prefer to not do so.  

[bhodi]

I thought I was the only one who was vaguely uncomfortable.

[Yegolev]

[Lantyssa]

It has to be something special to date someone more than a few years difference and make it work.  Chances are you're in very different phases of life, even if you get along wonderfully.

One only need look at his avatar for clues.

I'm glad I wasn't the only one thinking that.

[Evildrider]

It has to be something special to date someone more than a few years difference and make it work.  Chances are you're in very different phases of life, even if you get along wonderfully.

This is basically what it was, wanting different things from each other... but her not taking the ending well.

[HaemishM]

Not a lot of chicks do. 

[ghost]

This is basically what it was, wanting different things from each other... but her not taking the ending well.

I would have assumed that you meant "not taking it well in.......the end".   

[Teleku]

The 3 hottest girls I know, all in their mid 20's are all currently dating (or have just married) men in their 40's.  It's failry common I've come to realize (and gives me hope for my old age, heh).

[bhodi]

Where do you live, and what kind of lifestyle did the two live, individually?

[Evildrider]

This is basically what it was, wanting different things from each other... but her not taking the ending well.

I would have assumed that you meant "not taking it well in.......the end".   

No comment.   

[shiznitz]

The 3 hottest girls I know, all in their mid 20's are all currently dating (or have just married) men in their 40's.  It's failry common I've come to realize (and gives me hope for my old age, heh).

They are also probably reliable customers of AshleyMadison.com as well.  The women, I mean. 

Early 40s husband and late 20s wife is not that unusual in New York City.  That's not me, though.  The wife and I are 6 months apart. I dated two significantly younger women when in my early 30s and the "phases of life" comment was right on.

[Teleku]

Now that's rather judgmental shiz.  None of them are like that at all.

To answer Bhodi:

1.)  Is half Japanese half Chinese (Japanese national) who has an econ degree and works at a bank.  Just married a German Engineer in Detroit.

2.)  Is French who is an intellectual property lawyer, dating American journalist.

3.)  Is an American who works at Google as a programmer, dating an airline pilot.

So, most are international I guess (and come to think of it, another very hot Chinese friend who was stewardess for Cathy Pacific (they only hire hot ones) was dating a 40 year old guy, but that didn't work out).  So maybe it’s a cultural thing.  Still, all of them were dating nothing but people in their age range, and all seem to have abandoned that for older men, and all (except for the Chinese I just mentioned) so far seem the happiest they've been in a relationship in a long time.

Anecdotal I know, but with all that going on in my circle of friends, I've stopped raising my eyebrows at 15 year age difference in relationships.

[Merusk]

Based on those profiles I can understand it on the women's part.  They want a more mature, stable guy and probably don't yet want (if ever) families.  The 40 year old men you mention are stable and have their shit together in a way I've never known 20-something guys to.


Warning: Unscientific speculation based on nothing but CW and pop psychology ahead.  Skip if you don't feel like engaging in late-afternoon BSing about stupid shit that isn't to be taken too seriously. (why are you here again?)

While I made the joke previously about dating 20-somethings, but "conventional wisdom" about 20-something women and 40-something men says such romances would work well.  The old adages being that young-women are uncomfortable with themselves and sex and therefore don't want it often and guys in their 40s have mellowed and lost enough testosterone to not want to bang every night.   The young ladies are looking for stability while they figure "who they are" out.

Which then leads to a reverse in life with cougars & young men.  More mature women wanting sex because they're finally comfortable with themselves and want to explore life from that angle but the guys of their age having mellowed after the chaos of figuring themselves out.  So the women hook-up with young guys who are insatiable due to raging hormones.

Seems to me setting society up that way would benefit everyone.  So bring on the 20-something ladies! 

[ghost]

There's also the biological aspect of the fact that women in their late teens and early twenties are typically very fertile and men in the late thirties and early forties are often are at the height of their "power", meaning earnings, health, looks, etc., when they are all averaged together.

[01101010]

The 3 hottest girls I know, all in their mid 20's are all currently dating (or have just married) men in their 40's.  It's failry common I've come to realize (and gives me hope for my old age, heh).

They are also probably reliable customers of AshleyMadison.com as well.  The women, I mean. 

Early 40s husband and late 20s wife is not that unusual in New York City.  That's not me, though.  The wife and I are 6 months apart. I dated two significantly younger women when in my early 30s and the "phases of life" comment was right on.

Phases? I sum it up as maturity levels. Sadly, I am in my late 30s, still look and act like I am lagged by about a decade in the maturity dept. So dating someone in their 20s is actually more beneficial for me since I am on the same level. Of course, I dread revealing my real age when pressed...

[schild]

Backing up a bit, that is absolutely valid of anywhere in America. 20-something girls qualify as the dumbest people I've ever met. I've met teenagers with more logic and reason than a 20-something female.

Something happens there, I don't know what, but I think giving them the right to vote may have been a mistake.

None of the girls here can argue otherwise because they're not 20-something anymore, so this isn't even bait.

[Evildrider]

While I made the joke previously about dating 20-somethings, but "conventional wisdom" about 20-something women and 40-something men says such romances would work well.  The old adages being that young-women are uncomfortable with themselves and sex and therefore don't want it often and guys in their 40s have mellowed and lost enough testosterone to not want to bang every night.   The young ladies are looking for stability while they figure "who they are" out.

That was the opposite of our relationship pretty much, although I'm not 40.. yet.  She just wasn't mature enough for me overall.  I think that was the deal breaker.  Although she says she wants a stable deal she also wants to be free.  I don't understand that logic, well I do... but at my age I don't have time for that shit. 

[Teleku]

Backing up a bit, that is absolutely valid of anywhere in America. 20-something girls qualify as the dumbest people I've ever met. I've met teenagers with more logic and reason than a 20-something female.

Something happens there, I don't know what, but I think giving them the right to vote may have been a mistake.

None of the girls here can argue otherwise because they're not 20-something anymore, so this isn't even bait.

Well, as my high school US History teacher use to say, "In 1920, the 19th amendment was ratified, giving women the right to vote.  Later that year, Warren G. Harding, arguably the worst president in this nations history, was elected.  Coincidence?"

[pxib]

 

As my freshman Poly-Sci teacher used to note, "People have lamented as male privilege that after women got the right to vote, many of them simply voted the same as their husbands... but it would be just as statistically true to say that after women got the right to vote, men were afraid to vote differently than their wives."

I blame 20-something female irresponsibility on the desperate tail end of the Cinderella Delusion. Life may be hard right now, but it's less important to plan for the future that to look good and stay trendy just in case Prince Charming's around. A perfect marriage to somebody rich and handsome and then kids or a career or art or vacation or whatever else strikes her fancy is kind of like winning the lottery... except there's this general cultural idea that if you're thin enough, cute enough, and have beautiful hair it's practically inevitable.

By 30 it's usually over, and by 35 she's laughing about it with her friends, but in the mid 20's it's a dream defended with fundamentalist fervor.

[lamaros]

You guys are a bunch of sexist jerks, or really unlucky.

[shiznitz]

As my freshman Poly-Sci teacher used to note, "People have lamented as male privilege that after women got the right to vote, many of them simply voted the same as their husbands... but it would be just as statistically true to say that after women got the right to vote, men were afraid to vote differently than their wives."

I blame 20-something female irresponsibility on the desperate tail end of the Cinderella Delusion. Life may be hard right now, but it's less important to plan for the future that to look good and stay trendy just in case Prince Charming's around. A perfect marriage to somebody rich and handsome and then kids or a career or art or vacation or whatever else strikes her fancy is kind of like winning the lottery... except there's this general cultural idea that if you're thin enough, cute enough, and have beautiful hair it's practically inevitable.

By 30 it's usually over, and by 35 she's laughing about it with her friends, but in the mid 20's it's a dream defended with fundamentalist fervor.

I don't think the sentence I am about to write is sexist, just true.  Women aspire for the perfect much more actively and for longer than men do.  This is not a bad thing or a good thing.  It just is.  Men generally will accept the best of what is in front of them at the time, while women will keep looking past what is in front of them, hoping for better and better to come along.

There are obviously exceptions to this as not all men are like all other men and not all women are like all other women, but in general I think it explains the biggest differences in life outlook.  Once women hit their 30s, they start to realize that the perfect might not actually be coming or maybe what perfect is starts to change.

[Sky]

I like it when we sum up half the race with stereotypes.