Religious In-Laws Advice please.

[Cyrrex]

This family does not sound like one that is above backstabbery, blackmailing, and general bullshit. I would in fact, tell them to take their money and shove it up their ass. They're just sick.

We have decided together that we are not going to communicate with them further. We don't need the stress such affiliations will continue to cause.

Good on yer!

[Pennilenko]

If you put long wavy hair on your manga avatar, Pennilenko, you would look like Geddy Lee!  How can anyone not be nice to Geddy Lee?

Lead Singer To My Favorite Band Ever!!!!!!!! Although with the manga avatar i got really close to what i look like now.

[schild]

This family does not sound like one that is above backstabbery, blackmailing, and general bullshit. I would in fact, tell them to take their money and shove it up their ass. They're just sick.

We have decided together that we are not going to communicate with them further. We don't need the stress such affiliations will continue to cause.

Your wife will be unhappy about this for a while, but long term, it sounds like the healthy decision. I talk to my dad as little as humanly possible and it's good for me. Probably good for him also, since I have years and years of pent up anger to unleash on him one day.

[Pennilenko]

This family does not sound like one that is above backstabbery, blackmailing, and general bullshit. I would in fact, tell them to take their money and shove it up their ass. They're just sick.

We have decided together that we are not going to communicate with them further. We don't need the stress such affiliations will continue to cause.

Your wife will be unhappy about this for a while, but long term, it sounds like the healthy decision. I talk to my dad as little as humanly possible and it's good for me. Probably good for him also, since I have years and years of pent up anger to unleash on him one day.

It was mostly her idea, while i kept my mouth shut and agreed with her. Mainly we are both kind of disgusted right now. My family has done some dirty dirty crap, but this kind of takes the cake.

[Paelos]

So it was more about money than it was about religion. Honestly, that makes more sense to me given how long you were married before it came up. I always thought that if they were serious about the religion part, they would have found that stuff out much earlier.

Sounds like a class-act bunch over on that side of the family. Cheers to you for cutting off that limb of crazies.

[Amarr HM]

Wow interesting outcome had a feeling there was a little more to this than just religion from the offset at least ye know where you stand now to some extent. Wonder would it even be worthwhile doing up a mock catholic wedding just to get in on the cash cow... hmm maybe forget I said that 

[Engels]

Non-corporate Jesus approves.

[Lantyssa]

If there is one thing which trumps the kool-aid drinking religious types, it's money.  Sad to see, but glad y'all decided not to play that game.

Hopefully gramps will see the 'devoutness' for what it is.  If your wife wants to show them true devotion, she should write gramps a letter explaining everything.

[shiznitz]

Im not worried about my relationship. Im worried about the long term impact this is going to have on my wife.

Don't.  If they're going to disown her for loving a good man based solely on religious beliefs, then they are making a monumental error.   Your wife just has to decide what she wants.  If the answer is you, then her parents will need to grow up and not only accept that, but be happy for her.  Trust me when I say that this is nothing but a power play on the part of the parents. 

How about talking with the priest of your in-laws? No good Christian minister would encourage this behavior. Unfortunately, the tension will never go away but the minister can demonstrate in no uncertain terms that your in-laws are behaving in opposition to Christ's teachings.

Oh, and just wait until you have kids and tell your in-laws they won't be baptized...

edit: and now that I am not clueless and finished the thread, that priest would be VERY interested to know about the whole money thing. Catholic tithes and all.