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Selby
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Most of the girls I've met from the Internet have expressed surprise that I'm actually 6'1" like my profile says.
One of my exes was actually 6'1" and was amazed and happy that when I said I was 6'3", in reality I was actually taller than her. She thought it was great compared to all the other people who claimed to be tall and were shorter than her by a wide margin.
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Most of the girls I've met from the Internet have expressed surprise that I'm actually 6'1" like my profile says.
One of my exes was actually 6'1" and was amazed and happy that when I said I was 6'3", in reality I was actually taller than her. She thought it was great compared to all the other people who claimed to be tall and were shorter than her by a wide margin. Tall girls do not fuck around with height. No better way to shoot yourself in the ass then making a claim you are taller than you are with a girl over 5'10".
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Musashi
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My foolish male brain simply cannot comprehend why a woman would discriminate based on height in today's day and age. I understand how in days of yore, height might have correlated to some kind of Darwinian advantage for men. However, I can't think of an argument I'd buy for this to be the case in any modern society today.
The most common height related request I saw was, "Must be taller than x. You should be taller than me in heels." I'm legitimately 6 feet, and I pretty much fulfilled that request for everyone I saw. But it always galled me to the point that I universally skipped those dumb asses. Why in the world would you care so much about how tall your man was when you are wearing heels? It seemed to me that making that request was a retard indicator, as height in relation to girl in heels has nothing to do with how well you'll get along. Unless you're so self-aware that you just can't be seen with someone shorter than you. And in that case, I felt I was well served by my policy of 'nexting' the height-conscious.
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My foolish male brain simply cannot comprehend why a woman would discriminate based on height in today's day and age. I understand how in days of yore, height might have correlated to some kind of Darwinian advantage for men. However, I can't think of an argument I'd buy for this to be the case in any modern society today.
Having talked to tall girls in the past, the general impression I've gotten is that it's mostly a comfort and baggage thing from their childhood than anything. Tall girls tend to stand out in high school and it leaves a bit of a scar on the psyche.
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Samwise
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My foolish male brain simply cannot comprehend why a woman would discriminate based on height in today's day and age. I understand how in days of yore, height might have correlated to some kind of Darwinian advantage for men. However, I can't think of an argument I'd buy for this to be the case in any modern society today. Just like it there's no reason for it to matter if a girl has a pretty face or a nice figure, amirite?
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lamaros
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I prefer to go out with girls who are shorter and lighter than me. Why can't a tall girl want the same?
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Musashi
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Just like it there's no reason for it to matter if a girl has a pretty face or a nice figure, amirite?
I donno if right. For one, I don't think too many dudes are putting, "Must have pretty face and nice figure." right there in their cotton-pickin' profiles. I'd have no problem understanding why girls would skip even a good looking tall dude who did that. And to be fair, it's not just girls who are above average height who have this in their profile. I definitely don't claim to know the nature of what women think, but this qualification just seems archaic and irrelevant to me - at least the 'taller than me in heels' part.
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Samwise
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Just like it there's no reason for it to matter if a girl has a pretty face or a nice figure, amirite?
I donno if right. For one, I don't think too many dudes are putting, "Must have pretty face and nice figure." right there in their cotton-pickin' profiles. I'd have no problem understanding why girls would skip even a good looking tall dude who did that. Yeah, but it doesn't mean it's not a requirement for a lot of guys. Saying that physical attractiveness is "archaic" makes you sound like some kind of goddamn Martian is all I'm saying. Complaining that those girls are presenting themselves as superficial is totally understandable. I actually kind of like it when girls are up front about their dealbreakers, even if they're superficial; saves a lot of time for all involved.
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Musashi
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Not to put too fine a point on it, but to me it's like saying, "Her knees are too sharp." (Ho HO!) It just makes my eyes roll, is all.
I guess height is just not something I ever spent any time thinking about. And so I have a hard time understanding why short dudes should be shafted, while I have no basis for comparison. I don't know why height is part of physical attractiveness. I see short chick. I say, "OK." I see tall chick. I say, "Yes, please." The process by which a woman interprets height in terms of attractiveness is indeed some form of alien logic to me. I guess I am a typical man from Mars.
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Samwise
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Just for a second, imagine a woman saying "The process by which a man interprets breast size in terms of attractiveness is some form of alien logic to me."
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Cyrrex
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Except that tallness isn't tasty and wicked fun to play with. You almost can't rub your height in my face, either.
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Samwise
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Except that tallness isn't tasty and wicked fun to play with.
I know some girls who disagree with you.
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"I have not actually recommended many games, and I'll go on the record here saying my track record is probably best in the industry." - schild
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Ironwood
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Your Mum had tits and your Dad was taller than you. It's not rocket science chaps.
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Cyrrex
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Ewwwwwww!
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Tale
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I remember working with a skinny short geek who was married to a tall amazon woman. Looked them up on Facebook 12 years later and they're still together, with three kids.
But in the movies, the woman looks up at the man as he holds her in his arms. Height changes physical interaction, whether it's a standing kiss, a whisper in an ear, an arm around the waist, or a sex position. Other things decide whether the relationship works, but I guess if you are describing in advance for a dating service the person you imagine spending your life with, it's difficult to throw away perceptions of how you will interact. I'm 6'1 and even a greeting kiss on the cheek to my tall female cycling buddy is an unusual experience.
Edit: "Five new replies were posted while you were typing" and they said it.
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« Last Edit: January 05, 2012, 01:54:38 AM by Tale »
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tgr
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I remember a former colleague of mine brought his girlfriend over one day. He was a head taller than me, and she was a head shorter than me.
They made a funny couple.
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My foolish male brain simply cannot comprehend why a woman would discriminate based on height in today's day and age. I understand how in days of yore, height might have correlated to some kind of Darwinian advantage for men. However, I can't think of an argument I'd buy for this to be the case in any modern society today.
Sure it's a genetic advantage. Women typically want to feel protected, because if they feel protected their young will be protected and they will be protected in their vulnerable gravid states. Many of the things that we desire in women are "built in" as are many of the things women want in us. The height/size thing may not make sense today, but it's still present in what makes us tick.
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01101010
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My foolish male brain simply cannot comprehend why a woman would discriminate based on height in today's day and age. I understand how in days of yore, height might have correlated to some kind of Darwinian advantage for men. However, I can't think of an argument I'd buy for this to be the case in any modern society today.
Sure it's a genetic advantage. Women typically want to feel protected, because if they feel protected their young will be protected and they will be protected in their vulnerable gravid states. Many of the things that we desire in women are "built in" as are many of the things women want in us. The height/size thing may not make sense today, but it's still present in what makes us tick. Queue the nature/nuture discussion!
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Musashi
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And of course I thought of that, and I didn't think nature vs nurture in terms of height correlating to a man's implied ability to protect was remotely realistic in our society for at least, uh, oh since Napoleon kicked everyone's ass. Yea it's still there from when cave-women wanted protection from the scariest goon she could find, but the point I'm making is that it's silly.
What I didn't think of was tits. Tits have rendered me broken. And I lose. I would gladly recant my nonsense in proxy for the prospect of the perfect titty. And no, I can't explain it. I suppose that's what one gets for stopping thinking about titties long enough to write words on the tubes.
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HaemishM
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Just like it there's no reason for it to matter if a girl has a pretty face or a nice figure, amirite?
I donno if right. For one, I don't think too many dudes are putting, "Must have pretty face and nice figure." right there in their cotton-pickin' profiles. I'd have no problem understanding why girls would skip even a good looking tall dude who did that. Yes, but women, unlike men, can generally have a man if they so chose unless they are so physically repugnant that nothing will touch them for fear of getting the dropsies. All they have to do is put out or at least give the impression they will put out at some not too distant future point and the dates shall be had. Women can be shallow and even moderately good looking women can pick and choose from the lineup of swinging dicks looking for something to touch their no-no spot.
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Merusk
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There aren't enough women here to get the typical "No we can't" response to that.
Of course, that response always ignores the female's underlying statement that she can't get a /quality*/ guy to just fuck her whenever she wants. As you say, if she's willing to accept anyone the list would be longer than she could deal with.
Guys, however, can do the same if they're willing to compromise on their primary motivator of physical beauty. I worked with a guy at a bar who went home with a different girl every night he worked. His pickup line was "Hey, want to fuck?" He got slapped a lot, and they weren't always pretty but he never went home alone and sometimes she brought a friend.
*Quality being whatever subjective mix of physical attraction, intellect, money, commitment and personality said female desires.
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HaemishM
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QUALITY is the problem. The old saying about "Got to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince" isn't a cliche for nothing.
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Sjofn
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As a tall woman, the reason I give a shit about height (although I don't have, like, a "must be this tall to ride this ride" policy or anything) is because everyone else fucking does. Throughout my life, when I had a new boyfriend, the FIRST THING people asked about him was if he was taller than me. I have had people act like I'm weird because I don't give a shit that I'm taller than Ingmar in heels. Society still pounds into a woman's head you should be shorter than your man. All the time. Always.
It's worse for my sister, she's the same height as me, but married a 5'7" dude. People found that hilarious. They also fretted that she might wear heels for their wedding, because oh no, then she'd be even taller than him. She always acted mock-surprised and would say, "You're right! I wouldn't want people to notice I'm taller!"
My actual preference is that they just be around my height (within three inches either way, probably ... but again, I don't break out a tape measure or anything). Dudes who are shorter than me often didn't seem interested in me in the first place (I only ever had one boyfriend obviously shorter than me, and it was not because I was rejecting short dudes), but I just ... like being around the same height. I don't think I'd want to tower over my beloved if I were a dude, either. Begging for neck and back problems, imo! ;)
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bhodi
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As long as you can kiss standing up and not look ridiculous, it's fine.
I describe myself "just shy of 5'8"" or "around 5'8"" FTR. Which I don't consider "really short". But I will describe it in terms of 5'8", the minimum acceptable male height, because it sounds better than "5'7" and a half".
I get the feeling we're re-treading this because I've got a hell of a sense of deja-vu here.
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Yes, but women, unlike men, can generally have a man if they so chose unless they are so physically repugnant that nothing will touch them for fear of getting the dropsies.
There's a big difference here. Women are typically more interested in a long term relationship rather than just getting laid (Yes, I know this is a gross generalization and there are exceptions to every rule).
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Minvaren
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Tangentially on-topic... I briefly dated one woman who was about 3" taller than myself, which was the first time I'd dated anyone taller than myself. It definitely made me do a lot of thinking about gender roles and height - I had gotten so used to being "the taller one" that it was distinctly unusual and initially uncomfortable to have to look UP at a date. As long as you can kiss standing up and not look ridiculous, it's fine.
This reminds me of the couple I know where he's 6'8" and she's about 5'4". I never thought much of it until I saw them slow-dancing, and then it was both awkward and humorous at the same time.
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HaemishM
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Yes, but women, unlike men, can generally have a man if they so chose unless they are so physically repugnant that nothing will touch them for fear of getting the dropsies.
There's a big difference here. Women are typically more interested in a long term relationship rather than just getting laid (Yes, I know this is a gross generalization and there are exceptions to every rule). Well, yes, and being willing to put out (or at least throw out the signals that you are) can attract more long-term relationships than acting like your maidenhead is more sacred than the Shroud of Turin.
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It can also attract a lot of STDs and small children, both things women don't want, at least until they have the relationship thing lined up for the kid thing.
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Sjofn
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It also gets them branded by the dreaded "slut" label. I'm sure all the dudes here are totally willing to date a lady who had more sex partners than them by a huge margin ( ) but not everyone is so enlightened.
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They are as long as they never have to acknowledge nor discuss it.
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Hahahaha! I'm really good at this!
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Keep that harlot past buried! Where it belongs!
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Samwise
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I'm sure all the dudes here are totally willing to date a lady who had more sex partners than them by a huge margin ( ) At least the ones that haven't been burned yet.
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My wife never had sex or kissed a man before she met me.
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HaemishM
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In case you didn't know it, men are fucking idiots. They want an absolute slut in bed who can do it all and do it well, but they want her to be never touched by another man (or at the very least never acknowledge that another man might be bigger/better than they are).
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